A friend of mine wrote a booked called: Everyone Wins! Playing the Game of Conflict Resolution In All Your Relationships. I’m embarrassed to say that I’ve had his book sitting on my bookshelf for a while now. I just finished reading Good to Great and was looking for another business book to read. Many times I had passed over Everyone Wins!, but for some reason I decided to give it a try.

This book is a MUST read. I am not saying this because I know the man who wrote it. It is full of great advice, stories and exercises. Yes, exercises. If you have any type of conflict in your life, business or personal, you need to get a copy of this book.

As Larry mentions at the very beginning of the book you need to read it with an open mind. If you are going to resolve any conflicts you are currently experiencing, you will need to be flexible and willing to change. Otherwise, you’ll continue to remain in conflict with the person you are trying to get along with.

Chapter 2 is titled “Give Up Your Need to be Right, Not Your Needs.” When I was a teenager, still in high school and soon to graduate I decided that I was going to stop fighting with my Step-dad, who I call Dad. We would argue about anything and everything. We both needed to be right. Not knowing how to resolve this conflict, I just decided to give up the need to be right. Whenever I noticed my Dad and I getting into a debate I would stop arguing. I didn’t tell him I thought he was right, but I didn’t tell him I thought he was wrong. Our relationship started to change. We didn’t fight anymore and our relationship is very positive now. I wanted to get along with my Dad, not fight with him. My need was about getting along, not about being right.

I have used a similar approach in other relationships and it works. As do the many other concepts in Larry’s book. Check it out for yourself, visit Larry Barkan’s website.